When you fail, you learn lessons, but when you doubt yourself, you don't even give yourself the chance to learn anything... Who cares if your first plan doesn't work, think of another way to get there, but never change your goal!
Hey smart girls, I’m Alexis.
I’m a singer/songwriter who’s here to tell you...don’t ever, under any circumstances give up on the dreams that lie within you and the goals you set for yourself. As long as you believe in yourself and your talents, anything can happen for you. Start with loving yourself first, knowing your worth, and how much you have to offer this world. There’s something special and unique about each and every one of us. We all have our own gifts and can have the opportunity to make our mark with them. Remember, normally nothing worthwhile comes easy, so keeping a positive attitude on your journey is going to be key. It’s all in your mindset, commitment, and most importantly loving what you’re pursuing. In order to reach goals and make dreams come to fruition, it takes endless drive, focus, time, discipline, hard work, determination, and sacrifice. If you don’t love what you’re doing there’s no purpose in doing it, so don’t ever let anyone influence you on what you should be doing. Instead, follow your heart and intuitions.
With that said, I’m honored to share a little bit about myself with you... I’m not your typical girl due to a unique health condition I have called, “Chimerism.” “Chimerism” is known as a rare autoimmune condition resulting from being a fraternal twin. My twin sister and I fused together in the womb and I absorbed her DNA. Her DNA cells still remain inside me, but my body treats her cells as foreign objects and tries to reject them, which strips my immune system. It causes me to have many health problems and it can be a huge challenge physically, mentally, and emotionally. The skin pigmentation on the left side of my stomach and back is the color red. It’s red from her genetic makeup. I’m basically considered a mutant by the doctors I've seen, making me sort of my own X-Man character. Also, I recently was diagnosed with a condition called “Eagle’s syndrome.” “Eagle’s syndrome” is where certain ligaments in the back of my head and throat have calcified, causing the them to turn hard like bone. These ligaments in my head cause me to suffer from constant migraine headaches and the ligaments in my throat, cause several obstacles for me while singing. As hard as it is at times having my conditions, I made myself a commitment that I’d never let any of it stand in the way of reaching my goals and making my dreams a reality. I hope to give all you girls out there who face their own health challenges the inspiration and encouragement to never let your circumstances hold you back from doing what’s in your heart and what you love most.
On a different note, here’s some of my background and what my journey has been like so far... I was born in Hollywood, CA in my parents' bed (not in a hospital). At only age three my Mom started me in dance class. Dance was my life, my everything. At a young age I set a goal I’d become a professional dancer. I was a hundred percent committed to dance and doing what it took to reach my goals. Besides school, dance was my first priority. At times, I’d have to sacrifice doing teenage things in order to stay focused. As much as I loved dance, it wasn’t always easy making sacrifices, cause I felt like I was missing out on things that other teenagers where doing, but I knew in the end it would all be worth it. Then at fourteen, I came home from my dance class one night and my Dad wasn’t home. Well, he wasn’t home because he’d actually moved out. My parents had decided it was time for them to go their separate ways and get a divorce. I had no real warning that any of this was going to take place, so it was a huge shock to me and very hard emotionally. Also, my Dad and I were best friends prior to him moving out, but after he left our relationship then ended up facing some challenges which was very difficult on me internally as well.
Then only two years later my best friend passed away in a tragic car accident. It was one of the hardest things I had ever been faced with. Between my parents divorce and my friends passing I was barely holding it together, but thankfully I was surrounded by amazing friends and family who I was able to turn to. Even with all the pain I was enduring, I never went off my path or lost track of my goals due to having them by my side. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who only have your best interest at heart, who love you unconditionally and truly support you. I’ll always be so grateful to everyone who helped me get through that period of my life.
Years later, I was given an opportunity to be a member in a girls singing group due to my back round in dance. I decided to join the group to be able to dance closely with some of my favorite choreographers. Soon after joining the group, things took an unexpected turn for me. I ended up falling in love with singing and song writing. It was then and there I decided to change my goal of being a dancer, to following a new dream of becoming a professional singer/songwriter. I knew it was going to be a challenge because I didn’t have any real training in singing and I had never written a song, but I decided that wouldn’t stop me, so I turned to my girlfriends Mom who was a professional singer. I asked her to coach me vocally and that’s when I really found, my voice and myself. She taught me it wasn’t about being the best singer or the most technically trained singer, but that singing was truly about connecting to your soul and singing from your heart. It’s all about feeling what you’re singing and spreading that feeling to all you sing for.
As a singer/songwriter it’s always been my dream to have my own music help even one person get though a bad day, a breakup, or to celebrate a happy time in their life. Music’s everything to me. I’m so grateful to all the artists out there who have given me inspiration and strength through their own music, so I want to give others the same gift back. Whatever talents you’ve been blessed with, whatever your hearts desires are and whatever your dreams may be, don’t let anything stop you from following them. You all already have the tools you need to succeed, within you. You’re all beautiful inside and out, you’re talented, powerful,inspirational, loving, caring and driven, so you all can do anything you put your minds to and remember... persistence always prevails!
Thank you Smart girls for all your time and letting me share my thoughts, I’m so grateful for that!
Lately I've been wanting things to change. I really want to live a life that I'm proud of and love everything that comes my way. I constantly say I want to get fit in a way that I happy and healthy. I don't want to continue to talk about it, I want to make it happen! I also just got back into school and I really want to get good grades and graduate! Lastly, I've always wanted to design my own jewelry line. I have some ideas that I want to show the world. So this month is going to be Make It Happen March. Because not only am I going to make sure these things happen, but I want you to also make it happen. What ever IT is. Make IT happen with me! Head over to my YouTube channel where I'll be showing and talking to you more about everything YouTube.com/smartgirlworld
Love is the most important thing. Who do you love? What makes you happy? What do you enjoy doing? Whatever it is, always continue to do it. Don't lose sight of it no matter how crazy life gets. Take the time out of you day to tell the people you love, that you love them. Take time out of your day to do what makes you happy. Everything that you love represents who you are.
Having to constantly remind myself, and I hope to remind you too, that no matter how hard it may be, you must not give up on yourself. It doesn't matter how much fear you have or how scared you are of failing..whatever situation you are in or idea you want to achieve, you can do it. All you have to do is just take the steps. You have one life to live, make it worth your while.