Find The Cause:
Anxiety starts off in the mind. It starts with a mood and your body reacts to your mood. Figure out what it is exactly that is triggering your anxiety or depression. Take some time to think about this, no one will be able to tell you what it is but yourself. Listen to your intuition and trust even the simplest suggestions of what is causing the emotion. Do you not feel loved? What is making you fearful? Anxiety is caused by a fear of something, find out what that fear is. Take time by yourself to dig deep and figure out what the cause is. It can be something simple, it doesn't need to be a huge factor that is making you feel this way.
Analyze Your Symptoms:
Once you figure out the cause of your anxiety, analyze your symptoms. Does your heart race? Does your stomach hurt? Is it physical to your body or is it more of an action where you just don't want to talk to anyone and would rather curl into a ball in your bed? Figure out all your symptoms of your anxiety. Be kind to yourself and don't judge yourself while you're figuring this out. It's ok, it's all apart of the process in relaxing yourself and getting past these emotions.
Take Some "Me" Time:
One thing I want to place importance on is it's okay to have some "me" time. You don't always have to surround yourself with your friends if you need time to be with yourself and work on yourself if it makes you feel strong again. Writing and reading can calm your mind. If you don't feel like going out and need a weekend to stay in and work on yourself that's something to place importance on. The best thing you can do for yourself is to work on yourself during this time. It's okay to stay home and do some self reflection.
Do What Makes You Happy:
Start thinking of things that make you happy and calm. Is there a sport that you can play to take your mind off everything? Try Yoga, it's calming and gets you active. Do you like to drawl? Does going outside on hikes make you feel at peace and calm? Do what makes you happy! Maybe you were doing this activity before and stopped.. maybe it's time to get back into it again and start focusing on your own happiness again!
Tricks To Get Past Your Anxiety
These next tricks are from a book I've been reading, the book is called "Hope And Help For Your Nerves" By: Dr. Claire Weekes
I got the book for $7 at Barns and Noble and it was the best $7 I could have spent on myself! I highly recommend this book for anyone who's feeling symptoms of anxiety.
As I stated earlier, find the cause of your anxiety. It all starts off with a mood. How you are feeling and what thoughts you are thinking. Get down to your bottom belief of what is causing this anxiety. Lack of love? Lack of fulfillment? Are there situations you're in that you tend to realize your anxiety happening or causing your depression? What is the bottom belief that you have about yourself that is causing these emotions? What things are you thinking about while you feel this way?
Accepting This Feeling:
In the book "Hope And Help For Your Nerves" Dr. Weekes talks about accepting your feeling of anxiety and not trying to fight it. Ever realize when you feel your anxiety coming on you tend to want to fight it? You fear it happening and want it to stop.. Only digging yourself into the exact feeling that you didn't want to happen? Dr. Weekes talks about anxiety and places importance on accepting the symptom that you get from your anxiety. Understand that the feelings you get are only over sensitized nerves that are on edge and overwhelmed. We have two sets of nerves in our nervous system, they are voluntary nerves and involuntary nerves. Voluntary nerves are the nerves that we use to move our arms, talk, walk, and have control of. Involuntary nerves are the nerves that we don't have control of. They are the ones that make our heart race, our stomachs feel like we have a pit in it, and our bodies to shake. They are the nerves that are associated with our adrenalin. When your anxiety happens it's these nerves that are set off. Imagine them as a little army ready to fight anytime you feel scared, nervous or worried. They are on edge and over worked. They are way too ready to fight for you! Whatever the symptoms you get when your anxiety hits you (racing heart, turning stomach, sweaty palms, shaking body) these are all the reactions of these involuntary nerves.
So what do we do when this feeling of anxiety comes on? We get more scared, worried and upset over the feeling that we are feeling, that it creates more of the feeling that we hate in the first place! By getting worked up over the symptoms your body is creating during your anxiety, we're creating more of the same emotions and feelings that we hate!
Understand that the feelings that you are feeling are over sensitized nerves. They aren't going to hurt you. You are the one who gave them the power in the first place. It all starts with a thought and your mood. From your thought, your army of nerves are ready to go..ready to fight! I hope I'm bringing some clarity to you to understand that these feeling you're feeling are nothing more than your nervous system being over sensitive. Our goal is to strengthen them! How do we strengthen them?
Strengthening Your Neves:
How do we strengthen our nerves and these feelings of anxiety? By accepting the feelings and symptoms you get from your body and understanding that they are your nervous system being over sensitized, these nerves and the symptoms you get are not going to hurt you. By trying to fight the feelings and getting upset over the symptoms, we create more adrenalin and more of the feeling we hate! This may not be easy for you at first and may take some time to get a hold on. I'm still working at it and it will be a process until your nerves regain strength. Learning to accept the feelings of anxiety you get and the symptoms your body does will strength your nerves. A trick I do when I start to feel my anxiety start to come, is to place my mind at the exact spot I feel it in my body. My heart tends to race.. I place my mind at my heart and remind myself that my heart beating fast is just over sensitized nerves and do not be worried, it will relax soon. By placing a calmness on whatever symptom you get, it relaxes your mind and your body will follow! If your stomach hurts, place your mind at your stomach and remind yourself "this is only a reaction of my nerves being over sensitive, It does not have power over me, I accept this feeling as apart of my healing process." By not allowing yourself to get more upset over the symptoms you get during anxiety, will calm your nerves and the feeling of anxiety will go to peace.
The process of strengthening your nerves again and overcoming your anxiety won't be a quick fix. At times you will feel like you are completely healed of your anxiety and it has not come in some time. Other times you just won't be able to stay calm during your anxiety and you will feel overwhelmed. This is okay and all apart of the process of feeling better and more at peace. Know that it all starts off with your mood. From your mood your nerves react and create the symptoms you feel in your body during anxiety. You have complete power over these emotions, because well..you gave them the power int the first place! The goal is to strengthen them again and regain inner peace. Focus on your mood when this feeling happens, then focus on the symptom and remind yourself that this feeling is only your nerves reacting to your mood. They do not have power over you and they do not control you. Don't allow yourself to get more worked up about these feelings. Accept the feelings for what they really are and your mind will find some relaxation, your body will follow.
I hope this post brought some kind of calmness to you. Like I said in the beginning I'm not a doctor, I'm only speaking on my own personal experience with anxiety. I suggest picking up the book "Hope and Help For Your Nerves" By: Dr. Claire Weekes because it helped me find some calmness and I hope it helps you too!