She’s your bestfriend. No, wait…she’s more like your sister. No seriously she might as well be your sister because you spend every second with her and she knows you better than you even know yourself sometimes. You grew up with her. She’s been there through every change you’ve experienced in your life and you’ve been there for her as well. You could never imagine a day without her by your side. But you two start to grow up, and something weird happens.. Your best friend, your sister, isn’t there for you like she once was before. I don’t know, maybe a boy got in the way. Or maybe one of you started getting new friends… or one of you decided to take a different path down life that the other didn’t decide to walk down? Whatever happened, it changed everything between you two and suddenly, your bestfriend your sister isn’t even your friend anymore. You guys fight, you guys argue and you guys hate each other. You see each other at parties and don’t even say a word to one another. Better yet, you may not even want to go to the party if you know she’s going to be there. The two of you just aren’t the same people anymore and it hurts so bad.
But maybe it’s for the better. I mean, you don’t wish her bad.. she just isn’t the same person, and well.. it’s okay. People grow and change and you may think “She just changed” or “She doesn’t understand.” It’s okay to grow apart from a bestfriend. We are all growing and learning. In that moment you may feel like you will never be able to be her friend ever again, but let her do her thing and maybe in the future if you happen to run into each other, you guys can put the stuff in the past and move on. I’m not saying you will go back to being Bestfriends again, but once you have a friend like that you know deep down neither one of you wishes the other one trouble in life. Give it time, let her experience life, and maybe somewhere down the line you two will put aside the stuff that happened and decide to grab some lunch together.
“Don’t give up just because of what someone said. Use that as motivation to push harder.”
“If he misses you, he’ll call. If he wants you, he’ll say it. If he cares, he’ll show it. And if not, he can’t be worth your time because you’re obviously not worth his.”
“If he is dumb enough to walk away, be smart enough to let him go.”
“Kiss slowly, forgive quickly, play hard, take chances, give everything, and have no regrets.”
“Don’t be reckless with other peoples hearts, and don’t put up with those who are reckless with yours.”
“I say “Out” to every negative thought that comes to my mind. No person, place, or thing has any power over me, for I am the only thinker in my mind. I create my own reality and everyone in it.”
Thank you to Everyone who posted a quote to the VLOG for the give away! I loved all of the quotes, it was so hard to pick just one!
A lot of times we wait for a certain date to set a goal for ourselves or to change our life style. We wait till the New Year to create a resolution and we try to stick to whatever it is that we want to change. Setting a new goal for yourself is awesome and I don’t think it should happen only once a year. Each month should be a new growth in ourselves.
Try this! Each month write down one thing you want to achieve by the end of this month! Last month I told myself that by the end of January I was going to start making YouTube videos for you guys and expand my communication to each and every one of you through the videos. I started making the videos and I’ve been sticking to it. For the month of February I want to try and set a new goal for myself! We’re pretty early into the month so you can try it too! Write down one goal for yourself for the month of February and try and see if you can achieve it by the last day of the month!
Next month is March! Try and do the same thing
To achieve growth take baby steps, don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Sometimes just by achieving the small things, it will lead you to the big goal in the end.
For the month of February I decided to work on my fitness and get more active! What’s your goal for this month!? Leave me a comment and share with all the other Smart Girls what your goal is!
I had the pleasure of doing my first Interview about Smart Girl World last night with an incredible girl MerzyBean! You can check out the interview here! Thank you again for the love and support, the interview came out perfect.
“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade… or whatever they say…”
In life you learn lessons. In that moment things may look like they are terrible and they couldn’t get any worse. You think “why does this always happen to me?” In that moment things suck, you’re pissed and just want to give up. But in life you’re always learning lessons and you may not realize it in the moment but later you will understand why it happened.
Next time something bad happens to you, sit down and chill out for a minute. Think about the situation and instead of saying “why me?” or “this sucks” think of the lesson you just learned… maybe it’s that you need to surround yourself with different friends, or maybe it’s time for a change in the way you’ve been living your life. Or maybe you need to reevaluate who your “real friends are.” Whatever it is that life is throwing at you right now, there is going to be a lesson you’ll learn from it. So instead of sitting there and feeling horrible and saying “this sucks,” flip it and think to yourself…. alright what am I learning from this situation, and what am I going to do so I don’t get hurt like this again…
You’ll find out in the end Smart Girl, that not everyone is going to have your back and not everything in life is going to be perfect, but when you decided to take these situations in life and find the lessons, you’ll understand why you needed to experience that moment. It may suck, but you’ll be stronger when you over come them.
It’s a funny thing… we always want what we can’t have…
I was hanging out with my girl friends the other day, and of course we started talking about our appearances. One of my friends who is naturally very skinny said she wished she had more curves. I looked at her like she was crazy because I only wish I could be naturally that skinny! Another one of the girls said her hair never grows and she just wished she had long hair… and of course the girls with brown hair wanted to be blonde and the blondes wanted to dye their hair dark. We are insane! We always want what the other girl has and we’re never happy with what we got.
The things that you’re not happy with that you can change, change them! For example, if you want to be more fit and healthy, change your diet! Eat healthier food and get active to change your body! There’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself and become more confident in your own skin…
But I definitely believe that we need to stop comparing ourselves with other girls. If we’re always wishing we looked different, than we’re never going to have love for ourselves, and not loving yourself and what you look like, ends up showing in everything you do…
Confidence radiates when you’re content in your own skin and when you accept yourself for exactly who YOU are.
“In my eyes we are all equal. No one person is more special than another. In order to love others fully, you need to first love and accept yourself. You could spend your whole life wishing you were someone else and never really appreciate the person you actually are and the things that you have to offer. When you see yourself as a unique individual and understand that you are truly irreplaceable and that everyone is different and special just the way they are, you get the opportunity to really accept who you are and fully embrace yourself. That’s when the magic of the universe radiates with in us and automatically, without us even knowing, our inner joy, enthusiasm, and happiness is transferred to others.”
- Miranda Kerr
I came home the other day to a book on my desk from my mother. It’s called “Treasure Yourself” written by Miranda Kerr, one of my favorite Victoria’s Secret Models. I suggest you girls go grab yourself a copy of the book. To be honest, I don’t really like reading. I never seem to find the time to sit and read, I usually just get bored and rather sit on my computer, but this book is full of inspirational quotes you can read quick! Miranda talks about her life and just gives a very positive message to the girls who pick up this book! I’m not done with it yet…I have only gotten to page 9 and I’ve already started writing down notes. Read it, you’ll love it.
The simplest way to be happy is to let go of the things that make you sad. One of the greatest mental freedoms is to truly not care about what anyone else thinks of you. Stop over analyzing the small stuff and self sabotaging yourself with negative thoughts. You’re only holding yourself back from the person you truly are.
What ever you believe about yourself is instantly brought to you. If you don’t believe in yourself, then you’re going to make others not believe in you too. Being happy with yourself is all that matters.
I want you to get to the point where you don’t care about other’s opinions. You won’t even listen to whispers of them saying you wont succeed. You won’t care about making a fool of yourself. You won’t care about their idea of “pretty” and you certainly won’t care about being accepted or not.
I think once we get to the point where we truthfully don’t care about what anyone thinks, is where true happiness in ourselves lies.
Believe in yourself Smart Girl, and watch how many people start to believe in you too.
That’s where True Happiness lies.